1. Is my Child in Heaven?
2. Why is this happening to me?
3. What is God punishing me for?

3 Things you don't want to hear or say

1. I know what you're going through.
2. Don't repeat biblical cliché's.
3. Let the grieving tell their own stories.

3 Things to look out for

1. Marital difficulties and spousal abuse.
2. Bitterness toward God.
3. Severe depression.

3 Things you must do

1. Simply be there when needed (meals, ....) and no more.
2. Include the siblings.
3. Remember the anniversary of the loss.